As much as we’d like to show that we don’t care about what others think about us, we do. Some people are so pre-occupied about what others might think about them, they seldom take part in things they like. Whether it’s the feeling of embarrassment, or being a hot topic for somebody’s laugh, this only holds us back from what we want. While this particular trait might prevent us from taking part in immoral activities and might also help us appear “sane”, people who worry too much often turn out to be loners and are less content than their non-worrying counterparts. If you are unable to decide which side of the coin you fall on, here are few signs to know if you constantly worry about what others think of you.
1. You are analyzing yourself too much
You have this unconscious need to point out everything to yourself. You are constantly trying to observe your each and everyone to check if anyone has noticed you falling short of expectations. More importantly, you are trying to look at yourself from someone else’s angle. The constant worrying and thinking will never let you be satisfied about the way you are and the way you do things.
2. You don’t take well to feedbacks
Even though, deep down you know that comments and feedbacks are good for you and will actually help you excel, you just can’t handle them properly. Feedbacks for improvement gets you down and you constantly tell yourself that you are not good enough. On the contrary, you could have taken well to the feedbacks and improved remarkably, had it not been for your constantly worrying nature.
3. You are worried about what you say
You constantly think about what you are saying and your manner of speaking. While it might have its perks now and then, you probably do it too much. You are your worse critic and you constantly self-censor yourself. Taking the safe route every time, will make you seem to be the quiet, shy type. You are sure to miss out on opportunities to share your opinions/ideas and make new relations.
4. You want everyone to like you
This is one of the worst characteristic to have. The desire to please everyone every time will leave you unhappy and a loner. When you are continuously doing or saying what others want, you are cheating yourself from what you want to do. This might even build up to be a life-long psychological disorder.
5. You are too calm
You often feel like you are not allowed to do or say something, as it might make someone mad or ruin their mood. You also react in a ridiculously calm manner when someone else gets mad. Being calm is a good thing, but being too calm when you are supposed to speak your mind is just another sign of you worrying too much.
6. You are ashamed of your Interests
You are constantly worrying about what you might do to make others mad at you. And, you are secretive about your interests. You never share a song or that movie you absolutely love, out of fear of being embarrassed.
7. You can’t say no
Whenever someone asks for your favor, you automatically feel obliged to help them. Even when that might affect your job or any other aspect in your life, you have a hard time saying no because they might get disappointed at you and might affect your relationship with them.
8. You don’t ask for help
Even you are putting yourself out of your comfort zone to prove useful for others, you feel hesitant to ask for anyone’s help. You worry that you will be judged for not being competent or capable enough to handle things on your own.
9. You are afraid of change
When the position of you are in life is not satisfying for you, making a change is the natural instinct. But, you fear change. You fear that you might be judged or considered stupid for making “irrational” decisions. You are afraid of failing to live up your own expectations while making a change. Most of all, you are afraid that others won’t like you.
It’s not possible for everyone to like you, and the best of way of living is not caring if anyone does. You will have a good set of people around you who are there for you as much as you are there for them.